Hey there, beautiful people. I’m often asked what was the most challenging part about embracing your sexual wellness, and I always answer, “Giving myself permission to get started.” I’ll add I didn’t immediately know I needed to! Like many of us, I’ve had my fair share of life experiences, from navigating sexual trauma to reshaping a life after loss. I spent so many of my early years trying to follow a “formula for success” and acquiring accomplishments I left little to no room to understand my own needs and wants outside of what others had required of me. My journey to sexual discovery and wellness didn’t fully manifest until my late 30s, and I’m a month shy of my 44th birthday. I could not reconcile that my pleasure was something I was worthy of and deserved. Once I grappled with the conclusion, I wanted to explore what it meant to be intimately gratified; I knew there was no going back to the days when I was having sex and had yet to truly engage in the physical act and indulge in intentional intimacy.

The next question I get asked 90% of the time is, “How on earth do you find time?!” I usually explain it like this, “Well, my dear friend, it’s because I am unwilling to behave as if my sexual well-being isn’t as important as any other aspect of my health.” For example, if my body is stiff, I’ll stretch it. If I break a bone, I’ll go to the doctor and have it set. I view my intimate life no differently. Prioritizing your sexual wellness is not a luxury; the experiences you should have are.

When we prioritize our sexual wellness, we create growth and self-empowerment opportunities. It’s a chance to tap into our inner strength, build self-confidence, and deepen our connections with ourselves and our partners. And you know what? It doesn’t just stop at our sex lives. It spills over into other areas, bringing a newfound power and fulfillment.

Now, I get it. Starting this journey can feel intimidating. But remember, you are not alone. Many of us have walked this path before, and we’ve come out the other side stronger and better for it.

Here are a few tips to help you get started on your sexual wellness journey:

1. Take a Moment for Self-Reflection: Set aside time to reflect on your desires, boundaries, and what truly pleases you. Journaling or practicing mindfulness can help you connect with your innermost desires and clarify what you want to explore.

2. Seek Knowledge: Educate yourself about sexual wellness, consent, and healthy relationships. Dive into books, podcasts, and reputable online platforms that provide valuable information and insights. The more you know, the more empowered you’ll feel.

3. Open Up the Conversation: Communication is key, my friend! Start by having open and honest conversations about your desires and needs. When you’re ready, share your thoughts and concerns with a trusted partner or professional specializing in sexual wellness. Remember, vulnerability is a strength.

4. Embrace Professional Support: Seeking guidance from one of our sex & intimacy coaches can provide expert advice tailored to your unique needs. We can help you navigate challenges, explore new experiences, and create a safe space for growth and self-discovery. Trust me, having a supportive guide can make all the difference.

5. Show Yourself Some Love: Remember self-care, loves! Incorporate practices that nurture your overall well-being. Whether taking long baths, treating yourself to a spa day (creating an at-home spa counts), or indulging in self-pleasure, prioritize activities that celebrate your body, mind, and spirit.

6. Take It at Your Own Pace: Remember, this journey is yours and yours alone. There’s no rush, no race to the finish line. Embrace each step with curiosity and compassion for yourself. Your progress is unique, and that’s something to celebrate.

It’s time to honor your sexual wellness and embrace the beautiful journey ahead. Take that leap of faith and invest in yourself. Discover the joys of self-discovery, pleasure, and connection.

As you embark on this journey, know that I and the entire Pink Cookie Shop community are here to support you every step of the way. We celebrate your courage, vulnerability, and commitment to nurturing yourself. Let’s create a world where sexual wellness is embraced, celebrated, and cherished.

With love and support,

Amber Joy

CEO & Founder, The Pink Cookie Shop